becoming a single parent
Single Mum's Life

Becoming A Single Parent

Hey guys, I hope you are well. In today’s post, I want to talk about becoming a single parent. I have heard a lot of stories from women with 2 or 3 kids, who have recently divorced or the other partner had left and had become a single parent. This is very heartbreaking but it is the reality. Alot of the times when your dating or married, sadly having children always seems to be the reason why things don’t work. It really shouldn’t be like that. In other words, if your marriage or relationship was very strong before kids then why should it end after children?

Sometimes A Break-up Is A Blessing

Let’s face it raising children is hard work, mentally and physically. A lot of things changes in your personality. You are not the same person as you were before you had children. Your insecurities and lack of confidence will grow high to a whole new level of which you nobody will ever understand.

I remember when I was pregnant, my partner and I were very excited about it but we hardly knew each other well enough to raise a child together. The pregnancy was too fast – I feel pregnant 1 month after we got together. Although we tried to work it out, there was alot of negative energy around us and we collapsed when I was 3 months pregnant.

It was very heartbreaking when we break up, but now, I am happy we broke up then. Imagine the hell I would have gone through. Sometimes it’s good to look at the positive side of a break-up. Blaming yourself and hating on the other partner is not going to help at all.

Revenge Is Sweet

Raising your children and working hard in achieving your goal is the only revenge you will ever get as a single parent.  You do this by grabbing all the support that is available to you. Your ex-partner will have alot of regret and feel useless that he left you and his children. He might even want to be in their life. After all, he left a beautiful all ready made family for someone else.

Advice

My advice is to take a chill pill. It is a huge transitioning from having a partner to support – being all alone with children. This is why it is very important to believe in yourself and take all the right support that may be available to you. Your ego and selfish attitude should be put aside. Things are different now as you have children to be placed as a no1 priority. As long as you put your children first before anything else, you will be fine.

If you are or know anyone to may be going through that are going through a similar situation, I hope this post has helped. You have to understand that we are all humans and we can only do our best based on experiences. Sometimes life just does what life wants and there’s nothing that can be done, other than rolling with it.

23 Comments

  • Debra Roberts

    Relationships are tough and while I admire when people “try to work it out”; the raw truth is, if you have to “try” and it’s not organic, it’s already over. We put too much pressure on ourselves to do what is perceived to be the admirable thing, we lose all sense of who we are in the process.

  • Luna S

    This was well written. It is a bummer things didn’t work out but as you said sometimes it is for the best overall not only for you but for the child as well.

  • Clio

    I love your honesty when describing the whole situation, and I believe it can inspire and support other women in the same situation. Raising kids does change how we see life and our perspective, and it is tiring and exhausting – yours was a brave choice and you’re giving a great example to your daughter!

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