Lifestyle,  Single Mum's Life

The Perfect Body

In today’s society, both men and women, even children are being pressured to get ‘The Perfect Body’. This has been going on for a long time and it happens every single day. It has also caused mental illness and suicide. Whether you are a multi-millionaire or a cleaner. The sad part about body shaming is that people who body shame other people are the ones who are not happy in their own skin. What’s worst – the victims believe them.

Body Shaming

Body shaming falls under the term ‘Abuse’. Yes, that’s right- ABUSE! Calling someone ‘fat’, ‘skinny’, ‘disgusting’ etc is an act of Abuse. We are all humans, we all have insecurities. So why should we body shame each other? Mothers with baby weight are being forced to hit the gym immediately after giving birth, men are in competition against the title of ‘Most Handsome Man of the year’ and kids? Kids are just living life by what they see from adults on Social Media.

There’s A Difference Between Giving Advice and Body Shaming

It’s one to advise someone to lose weight due to health issues or just giving a piece of friendly advice when it’s genuine. When someone is super proud of their body or have built up a sign of courage to show off their curve, stretch marks, etc and then constantly being told to take the picture down due to negative comments regarding how they look, that’s when the body shaming occurs.

Stop Body Shaming

The only way to stop body shaming is to be proud of your body. Haters will stop hating when they realise they can not victimise you. I am proud of my body, my stretch marks, my c-section leftovers, my disability, my curve, most especially my smile. All the scars that are printed on my body, I am proud of them all. It shows where I have been, how I far I have come and where I am going. I have the perfect body that anyone can ever have. There’s nothing missing in my body, there’s nothing to change.

Mirror Mirror On The Wall

Think about it. Nobody wakes up in the morning and look in the mirror and say to themselves, ‘Oh My God, I’m fat.’ You wouldn’t think are fat unless you are told, you wouldn’t think your stretch marks make you look weird unless you are told. You certainly would not think you are ugly unless you are told you are ugly. That is what body shaming does to mental health.

Only I Decide

Unless you are the all mighty creator (God), keep your opinion to yourself. It’s my body, you have nothing on me. I am uniquely designed. Only I decide if there are changes that need to be done, only I decide if I’m fat or skinny, only I decide to I eat and don’t eat, and only I decide what I want to do with my body. It’s my choice. My happiness starts with me and no one else. As long as I am healthy and happy, I have the perfect body.

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  • Lifewithsonia

    Thank you all for your positive comments. I am so glad it is passing the right message as well as inspiring. Body shaming is everywhere, and although there has been lots of campaign promoting body confidence, there is still a long way to go. My daughter is due to start school (primary 1) after the summer holidays and I am extremely worried about how she’s going to react to the things society throws at her. She’s a very bright, confidence and smart little girl and I don’t want that to change. I thought rather than sitting, worrying about it, I should do something about it, share it and hopeful when she’s old enough she’ll come back to it.

    My advice is to not listen to body shaming but to embrace it. At the end of the day, people only act negatively out of jealousy. There’s something so special about you that people see, that you don’t. So whether you lose weight or add weight and get plastic surgery, people will always find something to talk about. Even when there’s nothing reasonable to talk about, they will turn that around and make it reasonable. Do you understand? It could be something so stupid that shouldn’t matter at all, like the sound you make when you drink a glass of water but if someone points that out, and make a big deal out it, that’s when everyone gets involved. So just live your life. As long as your happy and healthy, there are people who love you. So instead of feeling down about yourself, ask yourself, what do I have that people find so fascinating to get jealous about? When you find it – ROCK IT.

    Sonia x

  • Geez Louise

    I wish I could love this post more but I don’t think it’s possible. No one should have to feel shame about their body. Although I’m not 100% happy with my body right now, I will not let anyone make me like I am less than worthy of love or respect! Preach lady xxx

    • Kay

      Thank you for this post! I really needed to hear this perspective “I have the perfect body”. “There’s nothing to change”. I’ve heard about loving our body in different types of ways but your words today, your perspective is exactly what I needed to hear. It really hit home that I’m not anyone else. Who told me that my body isn’t perfect. Its perfect for me. I have children and because of this it’s changed. I am so grateful for that. Thank you so much!!!

  • Live Learn Better

    I like the last point…”Only I decide.” I have told people to be very careful on the amount of power given to others over their lives and aspirations.
    I have seen very health obese people and seen very sick skinny individuals.
    As long as you are comfortable in your own skin…don’t be bothered, the world will get used to it.

  • Snehal

    Thanks for coming out with this post! Body shaming has been increasing day by day. The media also puts a lot of pressure on us to have a certain kind of body. 😕 Btw you are beautiful! 😊

  • Nyxie

    The perfect body does not exist!

    I wish I could scream at every person who has ever shamed me for my body, both large and small. Body shaming and judging each other’s bodies have such a detrimental effect on our emotional and mental health.

    Such an important post, and addressed so well.

    – Nyxie

  • Claire

    This is beautiful. I don’t feel 100% comfortable in my body at the moment but thankfully I have not received any negativity about my body. Except from myself.

    Maybe I should take note of body shaming myself x

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