Embracing Self-Love Through Your Motherhood Journey
Motherhood,  Single Mum Life

Embracing Self-Love Through Your Motherhood Journey

Embracing Self-Love Through Your Motherhood Journey. Hello everyone, I hope you are well. In today’s post, I will be sharing a Mother’s Day special – Embracing Self-Love Through Your Motherhood Journey. Mother’s Day (10th March 2024) is a special day to recognise and celebrate all our wonderful mothers and mother figures. Whether it’s your biological mother, a stepmother, an adoptive mother, or simply a maternal figure who has had a positive impact on your life, this day is dedicated to showing them your love and gratitude. It’s a time to reflect on the sacrifices they’ve made and the unconditional love they’ve given us. As we celebrate this day, let’s take a moment to appreciate all the fantastic and soon-to-be mothers and let them know how much they mean to us.

Embracing Self-Love Through Your Motherhood Journey

This year’s Mother’s Day is a very special one for me. It marks a significant milestone on my journey that has spanned over a decade. Looking back, I am incredibly proud of my growth and progress. If you’ve been following my story, you would know it has been a journey of overcoming adversity and challenges. I started as a young, quiet, shy and abused little girl, but through resilience, determination, and support from loved ones, I have transformed into a confident, empowered and booming young woman. It has not been an easy journey, but it is one that I am grateful for because it has made me who I am today. This Mother’s Day, I celebrate the incredible woman who raised me and the incredible woman I have become.

Self-Love In Motherhood

It can be challenging to find self-love through motherhood. As mothers, we often prioritise our children’s needs over our own. However, there has been a shift towards self-awareness and personal growth in recent years. Despite facing various challenges, I have accomplished much on my motherhood journey. Some of my achievements include completing a 4-year college course, starting and managing a successful blog, surviving a pandemic, establishing an online business selling digital products, being in a long-distance relationship for seven years, graduating from college with high grades, and working in customer service in the aviation industry. As a single mother, navigating motherhood can be both challenging and rewarding. Below are some strategies that can help you find your way through.

Self-Compassion

If you feel guilty about not being able to spend enough time with your child because of work commitments, try not to be too hard on yourself. Please acknowledge that you are doing your best to provide for your family and that it’s okay to have limitations. Remember that you are still a loving and caring parent despite your challenges. Being a single mother can be challenging, and being kind to yourself is important. Practice self-compassion and remind yourself that you are doing the best you can.

Build a Support System

Surrounding yourself with people who can provide emotional support can be helpful. You can seek support from your friends, family members, or other single mothers. Being part of supportive groups or online communities can also provide a sense of belonging and understanding. For instance, you may feel overwhelmed with household chores and childcare responsibilities and need help. It’s okay to reach out to a friend or family member who can lend a helping hand, even if it’s just for a few hours. Alternatively, joining a local single mothers’ support group can offer valuable advice and encouragement. You can connect with others who understand your experiences and offer support.

Set Realistic Expectations

Motherhood often brings high expectations of perfection, but it’s important to set achievable goals and expectations for yourself. Recognise that it’s impossible to do everything perfectly, and it’s okay to accept this fact. Prioritise what matters the most and concentrate on it. Suppose you feel overwhelmed trying to maintain a flawless image of motherhood, as seen on Pinterest. In that case, it’s essential to understand that meeting such high standards is not always feasible. Instead, focus on providing your children with a nurturing environment and prioritising essential tasks, such as spending quality time with them and meeting their basic needs.

Time Management

It can feel overwhelming if you’re trying to balance a full-time job, household chores, and parenting duties. The key is to create a daily or weekly schedule with dedicated time slots for work, childcare, meal preparation, and self-care. If your child is old enough, delegate tasks to them, or consider hiring a babysitter or asking family members for assistance. Remember to prioritise your own well-being and schedule time for self-care. Don’t hesitate to ask for help when needed, and don’t forget that it’s okay to delegate tasks where possible.

Take Care of Yourself

Imagine a situation where you feel completely drained and exhausted due to trying to do everything. It is important to prioritise self-care by scheduling regular “me time” activities, such as relaxing bubble baths, practising yoga, or indulging in a hobby you enjoy. Remember that taking care of yourself isn’t selfish – it’s essential for maintaining your physical and mental well-being. As a single mother, it’s easy to push your needs aside, but self-care is critical for your overall well-being. Make time for activities that nourish your mind, body, and soul, such as reading a book, walking, or practicing mindfulness.

Seek Professional Help When Needed

If you are facing mental health challenges or struggling with your emotions, it is essential to seek support from a therapist or counsellor. Therapy can offer a safe environment to explore feelings and learn coping strategies. If you are experiencing symptoms of anxiety, depression or stress, it is recommended to seek help from a therapist or counsellor. Speaking to a professional can assist you in processing your emotions, developing coping mechanisms and gaining valuable insights into managing the challenges you face as a single mother.

Celebrate Your Achievements

It’s essential to take the time to appreciate and celebrate your achievements, even if they seem minor. Every step forward is worth acknowledging, whether getting through a tough day or accomplishing a personal goal. For instance, imagine that you have successfully navigated a particularly challenging week as a single mother, balancing work, childcare, and household responsibilities gracefully and resiliently. Please take a moment to pat yourself on the back and acknowledge your accomplishments, whether completing a big project at work, helping your child with homework, or simply making it through the week with a positive attitude. Celebrate your resilience and strength as a single mother, and remember that every small victory is worth celebrating.

Mother’s Day 2024

To celebrate Mother’s Day this year, I booked a weekend away from home and visited Scotland’s second-biggest city – Glasgow! We had a great time there. We stayed at the Double Tree by Hilton Hotel, which was fabulous: a swimming pool, a delicious breakfast buffet, a comfy bed, and free Wi-Fi. Honestly, we had the most relaxing time. Something incredible happened. My daughter and I went to the swimming pool, and God knows I can’t swim.

A Little Proud Moment

Guess what? My daughter, the fastest swimmer at her lessons, decided to teach me by holding on to my back while trying to swim on my back. That was a proud moment for me. She didn’t leave me; she knew I couldn’t swim and decided to use all her training from her swimming lessons to teach me how to swim. I was emotional and don’t think I will ever forget that moment. I did feel a bit of guilt, though, because it’s usually the opposite, where parents train the kids to swim, but in my case, it’s the other way around. But I didn’t let that bother me. My daughter was encouraging: ‘You doing great, mama, keep kicking your feet’.

We did a little bit of shopping in Glasgow. There was a protest going on against the war in Gaza and Israel. Glasgow is a busy city. Many people move around the streets, and pigeons fly left, right, and centre, trying to pick food from the floor. The shopping mall was huge. Buildings are high. I always call Glasgow the Scotland version of New York because of its busy vibes and monumental buildings. Sasha had been telling me she wanted to learn how to dance. So I booked an Afro dance session with one of my friends, a dancer and choreographer based in Glasgow, where she hosts dance classes for both online and studio sessions. I have been watching her dance videos on Facebook and showing them to Sasha. Sasha was interested. However, I think she was nervous and had issues with flexibility.

Feeling Refreshed

Nevertheless, she had a great time and would go back. I am so glad that I gave her a chance to experience what it’s like to learn how to dance. I have a feeling she will pick this up. That’s it about being a parent. Giving your child the opportunity to learn what they want and showing them that their dreams can come true if they ask, pray, and work hard. Glasgow trip was a much-needed trip for my daughter and me because I have been working hard in the past six months or so since graduation at my new job and working extra hours on my days off, so I needed to practice self-care and escape, and now I am back at home. I am feeling better than before and ready to return to work.

I am grateful for my wonderful experience at Double Tree by Hilton Hotel – Glasgow Central. We were greeted with warm and welcoming smiles from the moment we arrived, which set the tone for our entire stay. The room was spacious and comfortable, and the high standard of service we received was truly impressive. The food was delicious, and the swimming pool was a great place to relax and unwind. We were especially impressed by the professionalism and friendliness of the staff, who went out of their way to ensure we had everything we needed. I highly recommend anyone visiting any Hilton Hotel for an unforgettable and enjoyable experience.

Motherhood is a journey filled with ups and downs, and it can often feel overwhelming. However, it is essential to remember that you are not alone on this journey. Many people in your life are ready and willing to offer support and guidance. Whether it’s your partner, family members, friends, or a support group, don’t hesitate to ask for help when needed. Remember to be gentle with yourself as well. It’s okay to make mistakes and have bad days. Give yourself grace and allow yourself to learn and grow as a mother. You will become a more confident and capable parent with time and support.

Happy Mother’s Day, everyone.

I hope you enjoyed that.

Talk soon.

Working with Strong women, I help empower women not to give up on their goals and find true happiness within themselves. #lifestyle #womenempowerment #selfcare

10 Comments

  • Ramil Hinolan

    Let’s take the time to appreciate and celebrate all the incredible mothers and mother figures in our lives, especially on Mother’s Day. It is inspiring reading your journey – overcoming challenges and celebrating achievements,

  • Nikki Wayne

    What a great content you’ve shared. This is very inspirational and really ideal to how to self-love yourself. i hope many people has a takeaway on this post.

  • Stephanie

    This article is such a beautiful read. Thank you for sharing your story as it has made me reflect on my own journey. I’ve learned over the years how to take care of myself in order to be a better mother.

  • Kimberley Asante

    Your article on embracing self-love through the motherhood journey is incredibly inspiring. It’s so important for mothers to prioritize self-care and nurture their own well-being while caring for their families. Your insights and personal anecdotes offer valuable encouragement for mothers everywhere to embrace self-love and find balance in their lives. Thank you for sharing such empowering words of wisdom!

  • Leanne

    I have a good friend who’s a new mom, and she’s been struggling with self-love and self-care. I think a lot of it comes down to what people tell moms they’re SUPPOSED to be.

  • Beth

    Setting realistic expectations for yourself as a mother is so important. All of us have expectations that are so ridiculous for ourselves as moms.

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