Five Challenges Of A Single Mum. Hello everyone, I hope you are all well. In today’s post, I will be sharing the five challenges of a single mum. As a single mum, I have overcome many challenges and still have forever to go. I noticed that most people are unaware of the challenges a single mum or dad goes through. So, with that in mind, I will like to share some of the challenges I have faced myself as a single mum.
Five Challenges of A Single Mum
Before I had my daughter, I lived independently – working very hard, having nights out, and paying my bills. However, when Sasha was born, everything ended. I lost my job, no more nights out, no more friends, etc. I just stayed at home (at least for the first 2-3 years).
The first few years were stressful because I was a first-time mum. I spent most days and nights crying out because I could not go anywhere without taking her with me, even if it were to go to the shops for a bottle of milk or bread. I always have to take her with me.
Sometimes you go out for a walk, but the process of getting her ready, making sure she’s warm, the crying and the looks people give you in public places, became overwhelming and made me want to stay home. Although there is a mother’s club, etc., you still wouldn’t go because there will be ‘competition’ mums who feel they have all the answers to your problems.
This could be anything like, which extra activities should she get involved in? Which school was right for her? Or what product should you be using on your child? I have spent so much money and time trying to find my daughter’s best choice. She’s mine, and her happiness depends on me.
When she was ill, I remember coughing up all night, and I tried everything I could to help her, and nothing seemed to be working. I just decided to call the ambulance, and she was refined when they came. You should have seen the looks on their faces.
Most single mums do not shower three days a week or have a nice home-cooked meal for a whole week. It’s that hard. You wouldn’t have the time to think about yourself. Everything you do from the moment you wake up is attending to your baby. Even when the baby is sleeping, you wouldn’t be able to shower because you are either napping or just thinking about what to do next, what’s for dinner, quietly tidying up the house etc. You just completely forget about yourself or take a shower.
Sasha was a good baby. However, when she was about 2 – 3 years old, I saw a new side of her development (Terrible Twos). She started crying a lot, making a mess everywhere. I turn around for 5 secs, and she’s up to something. Can someone please explain how kids can think and act that fast? Talking about it now makes me smile and laugh. How upset I used to get? I used to think I was doing something wrong because she’s well-behaved but not at home when she goes to grandma’s house. Maybe I was not giving her enough love. I asked for advice from doctors, and mums’ chat groups etc. I thought it was my fault this was happening. Everywhere I turned, people said it was normal.
Yes, parenting is THE only most rewarding and challenging job anyone could do. It is also a terrifying thing that scares everyone. However, you must remember that being a parent is a part of your life. It’s not all of it. You can still achieve your dreams etc. Having a child pretty much means you have to work around her. Your child comes first and above anything else. There is just little you can do, but one thing I have learnt is that you can not make everyone happy.
Parenting is hard, but we are all doing it.
You have to take it one day at a time.
I hope you enjoyed that.