Five Choices to Create Happiness. Hello everyone, I hope you are all well. In today’s post, I will be sharing Five Choices to Create Happiness. We all have met people who seem happy most of the time. Perhaps you have assumed that these people are just naturally happy, or that they are the lucky people who have an easy life, or they had loving parents. Most of the time, nothing could be farther from the truth. Happy people make specific choices regarding their thinking and behaviour. Happy people consciously choose to think and behave in ways that result in Happiness. Unhappy people are unconsciously thinking and acting in ways that create unhappiness.
Five Choices to Create Happiness
Happy people see the glass as half full, while unhappy people choose to be pessimistic – to see the glass as half empty. Optimistic thinking does not just happen – it is a choice regarding how you see life. Optimistic people are confident because they CHOOSE to be optimistic. Instead of allowing their ego-wounded self to be in charge with all its doom and gloom, happy people put their loving adult selves in order and are open to the beautiful possibilities life offers. Happy people realize that their thinking is the beginning of a creative process that leads to manifestation. By thinking positively, they move themselves to act in ways that manifest their dreams.
Happy people choose to be kind and compassionate toward themselves and others. They realize that their Happiness is the RESULT of their caring behaviour, not the CAUSE of it. Happy people have learned that how they treat themselves and others determines their feelings. Happy people do not wait to be satisfied before being kind to themselves and others. They are kind, caring and compassionate whether or not they feel like it. They have chosen this way of being, and their Happiness is the result.
Happy people do not harbour resentment toward others, even those who have been mean and hurtful. They realize that bitterness makes them unhappy, so they allow people to see their humanness and forgive them for their malicious behaviour. Because happy people tend not to take others’ uncaring behaviour personally, they don’t get their feelings hurt like people who take others’ behaviour personally. Happy people recognize that another’s behaviour is really about that other person, so they move into compassion toward themselves and others rather than judgment.
Happy people realize what they can control and what they can’t. They live by the Serenity Prayer, accepting the things they cannot change and changing the things they can. Unhappy people constantly try to change people and circumstances and do not accept their lack of control. As a result, they are always frustrated. Happy people realize they cannot control others and outcomes, so they focus on what they can control – their thinking and behaviour. Accepting what they can and cannot control leads to Happiness and inner peace.
Finally, happy people are consistently grateful for what they have rather than complaining about what they don’t have. They notice the many gifts and blessings that come their way, and they frequently express gratitude for the everyday things in their lives – the beauty of nature, the food they eat, the smile on a friend’s face, and their ability to see, hear, walk, and talk. Even many disabled people who may not have the blessings of eyesight, hearing, speech or legs are happy because they focus on what they can and can do rather than what they miss out on.
If you want to be happy, you need to recognize that Happiness is the result of your thinking and behaviour, not the cause of it. If you focus on becoming conscious of what thoughts and behaviour make you happy, you can become a happy person – regardless of your circumstances. Happiness does not just happen – it takes work!
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This is such a great reminder that we have a lot more control over our emotions than we give ourselves credit for. I look back on the days that I was most happy – and yes… I made choices to hold on to resentments and not accept what I couldn’t control. As soon as I chose to forgive to be more grateful and accepting… everything kind of started falling into place. This is wonderful! Thanks!
I love that your number one is optimism it definitely helps in all situations.
gratitude is the first place for me to start and the other habits seem to fall in place.
I was trying to choose which of these 5 elements that resonated with me the most and I couldn’t! They are so essential to creating our happiness.
Thank you so much for breaking these down! I couldn’t agree more especially with the kindness piece!
Thanks for the great reminder!
Beautiful points. In the hustle bustle sometimes we ignore these little things. Thanks for putting light on these.
Yes! These are all so important! Such a good reminder during a hard time.
These are really good points! It is true that a lot of our own happiness is from within. Every situation is what we make of it. Good tips for being happier!
I always enjoy reading articles about happiness as this is my niche, Made You Smile Back. You did an exceptional job expressing your viewpoints. Well done!
I love this! Happiness is definitely often a choice, or at least reacting positively to things. Thanks for all the great insight. Gonna pin this.