Reflection Journal

Five Life Events That Shaped Me Into Who I Am Today

Five Life Events That Shaped Me Into Who I Am Today. Hey guys, I hope you are well. In today’s post, I will be sharing five life events that shaped me into who I am Today. If you follow my blog, you might have read the full background story of these life events I will share with you. Sometimes it is good to sit back and reflect on life events that have made you become the strong person you are now.

Five Life Events That Shaped Me Into Who I Am Today

Losing My Arm and Hearing

I was involved in a car accident when I was five years old. The event happened when my family and I went on a road trip to visit my cousins in Nigeria. Then when I was about 9 – 10 years old, I was diagnosed with hearing loss. Losing my arm and hearing at such a tender age, was very confusing, as you can imagine. In one minute, I had two components and excellent hearing. And the next, I had one arm and hearing loss. Although this had happened, I was spoiled with lots of love from family and friends in Nigeria. So it didn’t affect me until I moved to the U.K.

Check out this post: Coming to Terms with My Disabilities

14 Years Of Failed Education

When I left Secondary School back in 2006, I went to college. College was my first step in getting independence. I was so tired of living with my parents, and I decided to apply for student accommodation. I was 16 years old and living my life. Which means I did not take education seriously. I spent four years after the first year going back and forth to keep trying to succeed. However, after years and years of failed education, I finally got things under control, went back to college, completed two years, and made it through to Higher National Certificate Level – I dropped out.

That Engagement

I was engaged once upon a time. However, the engagement took a dark turn and ended within a short time. The meeting took the form of different domestic and sexual violence. At the time, I was very new to being in a relationship, let alone being in a violent one. It made me much scared of the world and the people in it. How can someone so lovely and sweet turn dark and bitter within 24 hours? Although it happened ten years ago, I am still scarred for life. Especially when it comes to dating. I fear being controlled and victimised by another man, woman, or any living being on earth.

Check out this post: The Engagement That Changed My Life

HIV Diagnosis

Living with HIV has been a very tough journey. First of all, I didn’t know the virus still existed as the last I heard about the virus was in Primary School. Secondly, I was three months pregnant at the time. Yo, I was petrified. Mostly about my baby because after everything I have been through, being pregnant was the best thing that has happened to me. And now I am hearing HIV? It was a very confusing and challenging time for my family and me. Luckily, everything went well with the pregnancy, and the virus was controlled.


Being a first-time mother has taught me much about life and how much control we have over it. As well as being the best thing that has ever happened to me, it is the most challenging and essential. I have grown up quite quickly, and I finally know what I want to do in my life. The difference between then and now is I know how to get it. One other important lesson that motherhood has taught me is Forgiveness. My city is small, and I grew up with many people. I presently do not want to be around my daughter based on my experience with them. However, motherhood has taught me to forgive and forget and try to live my life as simple as possible.

Check out this post: Becoming A Single Parent

Always Believe Something Amazing Is About To Happen

I believe everything happens for a reason. There are things we can control and things we cannot control. Sometimes we try to prevent negative things from happening to us. However, no matter what we do, it just happens. Life happens, but that is not important. The way you handle it is. Set the right mindset, set goals and always believe something unique is about to happen.

I hope you enjoyed this post. I have come a long way; trust me; there is plenty more to go. Based on past life events, I feel ready to put what I have learnt into practice. I choose to be happy and they are the things that shaped me into who I am today – A Happy, Strong, Independent Woman.

I want to know, what Life event shaped you into who you are right now? Could you leave it in the comment below?

Catch you later.

Working with Strong women, I help empower women not to give up on their goals and find true happiness within themselves. #lifestyle #womenempowerment #selfcare


  • Aliya

    This is so uplifting and inspirational. Wow, reading your story has truly touched me. You’re such a strong individual, I couldn’t have imagined going through all this. Thank you for sharing your journey. May you continue to blossom and grow.

  • Jennifer Maune

    This is so inspirational. I especially loved the last part “always believe something amazing is about to happen.” This can be applied to anyone’s life! I loved hearing your story, thanks for sharing!


  • Kim

    Thank you for sharing! I can’t imagine losing my arm and hearing at a young age and then going through more trauma later in life. You’re definitely a warrior.

  • Shayla

    You’ve been through so much, and yet you shine bright. I love your posts, they are so full of reality and life. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, you are an amazing woman. So glad you are sharing your journey for others.

  • Adriane

    WOW! Thank you for sharing and being so authentic with the journey you have been on. You have such a powerful purpose on this planet. I’m in awe how you are using what has happened in your life to encourage and inspire others. Thank you!

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