Things Single Parents Family Should Do More. Hey guys, I hope you are well. In today’s post, I will share five things single-parent families should do more. As a single mum, I know how challenging it is to raise a child. Trust me. It isn’t easy. Sometimes you forget about the fun things because you are always worried about something. Sometimes we lack Self-Care because we forget about ourselves. And most times, we say and do things we don’t mean to say.
Things Single Parents Family Should Do more
Communicate
I feel this is something every family must do. They are married or single. Regular family meetings should be part of the household. This is because it helps to discuss and understand each other is going through and shows some support. One thing Single parents fail to recognise sometimes is that the children are the ones suffering the most.
Just because you are working up to 3 jobs does not mean you are suffering. All you do is go to work and pay the bills. The children have to learn and do something they have never done daily. They are exploring new things every day, and trust me. It is a very exhausting thing to do for a child. Instead of complaining or losing your temper, try talking to them and listening to what they say.
Save
This is important in every family household, especially in a single-parent home. The truth is, it is tough to save money in a single-parent family. We work less, earn less but pay more. Even if we work more like three jobs, we still pay more because the bills get higher. For example, I work part-time and pay for childcare. If I work extra hours, I will have to pay for more childcare because I use more childcare services.
There is never a financial balance in a single-parent household. However, we will not have peace of mind if we don’t save money. Everything will become more and more expensive each year. And the kids are growing too and very FAST. One minute, my daughter crawled on the floor and tried to stand up. The next, she’s practising to become the next Usain Bolt in my living room. For one minute, she could not talk. The next, she’s trying to tell me what to do.
Read
We all know that reading is a great way to develop both adult and children’s communication skills. It also helps with bonding and growing together as a family. But unfortunately, some parents are so busy with work that they don’t notice anything regarding their child. And it’s not their fault. Unfortunately, I am one of the guilty ones. I had so much going on in my mind and failed to notice that my child could read and write her name.
I was so surprised and proud, at the same time – ashamed when I found out. From then on, I started buying more reading books for her and ensuring we did her homework together. So I can see what she can read and what she can’t. I think I will start taking her to the library too.
Play
My daughter has been asking me to play with her a lot. Lately, I think she’s feeling lonely to the point where she has requested me serval times to get a boyfriend, so she can have a baby sister because I don’t play with her all the time. That breaks my heart because I felt she was happy when she played alone. However, these are signs some parents fail to see. Loneliness is a bad thing. Single parents are lonely but remember your kids are lonely too. If you play together, you will both be stress-free. You will find out you guys enjoy the same games and movies and laugh at the same jokes.
Yes, having friends are good, but children enjoy playing with their parents more. Also, it will be great if you and the other parent play together as a family once in a while. Try adding that to your routine. You might have a practice already, where the other parent has the kids for the weekend. Even if it’s playing in the park, going to the cinemas, shopping, a holiday or even just a weekend away, do something together. That way, your child will not feel too insecure.
Plan
Planning for the future is essential. We all know the basics: kids grow and go to school while the parents start working. That is boring. You have to try to get more out of life. Planning for the future makes everything more straightforward for you and your family. It is better to plan with your children involved in it too. Asking them questions about their interest and what they want to do within the next five years will get them excited for the future. You’d be surprised by the things they come up with. My daughter recently told me she wants to become a rapper. I was like,’ Are you Serious?’ Then she burst out laughing, saying, ‘Pranked you’.
Be sure to involve the other parent too. By doing this, you are making things easier for yourself. In addition, your child will be happy to have both parents in the household together and plan things.
No matter what, please make your family a No. 1 Priority.
I hope you enjoy this post.
Talk soon.
18 Comments
Erica (The Prepping Wife)
I don’t have kids of my own, so these aren’t issues for me personally. But I do know that being a single parent is not remotely easy because there is no safety net that comes with a second parent to help out with not only income, but time spent with little ones. But I do know from reading your blog, you are doing a great job as a single parent, even through the rough times. You have accomplished a ton and have a lot to be proud of. You definitely inspire other single parents out there and give them great advice.
Sarah
This is great to be mindful of how to interact together and plan for the future.
Smita
You’re a great parent, Sonia and your advice is always spot on! So agree with the point on talking – the only way to really understand what is going on in each other’s lives is by being frank and open.
Amanda Krieger
These are really great thoughts, thanks for sharing!
Cyndi Buchanan
Thank you for sharing this. My husband and I have talked about separating. This is all helpful information if that time ever comes.
Britt K
I love this – skills and factors that should factor into every parent’s life, both single and two-parent households. It’s so easy to get caught up in the craziness of life and miss out on the important things. Kids grow up WAY too fast… don’t miss out on the time together. Simply planning time to play with one another, read together, etc. will allow you to take a step back from the ‘responsibility’ and genuinely enjoy this stage in your child’s life.
Melanie williams
I do not have any kids, so this is not relevant for me. I am sure those with kids would find this useful though
Beth
Wonderful tips we can all use!
Stephanie S
This is such a great list of things single parent families should do. I think it is important to play, read, and just be together as much as possible. Honestly for any family I think all of these things are very important. Thank you so much for sharing this.
Jenn
Great tips! Saving is super important. You never know what can pop up!
Kelly| citytoast2southerntea
I agree parenting alone can be alot but being a single mom does need extra money so saving as much as possible does help
LuLu B - Calabrisella Mia
I can only imagine how much work goes into being a single parent. This is a great list to take into consideration to create a more balanced life for everyone!
Stephanie
These are great tips! Most of these I do with my family too and I’m married. I think this can apply to all families! Thank you for sharing!
Alexandra
These are some good points. And you are right in that we can often get so caught up in how hard it is for us to be a single parent that we often neglect or minimize what our kids are going through. It’s really a tough balance for sure!
s
Planning is so very important for the future of the child anyways. But then a single parent probably has to give it extra importance as they no one to fall back on.Education is costly these days and if the child wants to do further studies after graduation, the costs could be really prohibitive.
Heather | The Blessed Mama of 4
These are all really great tips. I am a single homeschooling mom of 4 and I agree with all your tips. Thanks for sharing!
Audrey at Two Pink Peonies
These are great tips for single parents or really parents in general! I think your last tip about planning is great we all need to plan both short term and long term.
Scott DeNicola
These are great points for a single parent or both parents. We can never talk to our children enough. I see the importance of this even more so now as my youngest is in high school and facing all the perils and drama that goes with it. We like to talk about our days at dinner and go around the table with one thing that was the best part and one that was the worst part of your day. And the answer can’t be the same every day. You’re not getting off that easy. I will say as busy as I was with work I always made time to play with my girls each and every day/night. Saving money is a whole different battle for sure and one I am still working on.