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How To Be More Confident In Your Own Words

How To Be More Confident In Your Own Words. Hello everyone, I hope you are well. In today’s post, I will explore nine powerful tips and three actionable steps for being more confident in your own words. Have you ever been in a situation where you wanted to speak up but found yourself remaining silent? If so, you may have difficulty expressing yourself. This is a severe problem because nobody else will if you can’t speak up for yourself. No matter what concerns, issues, questions or solutions you have in mind if you can’t speak up at the appropriate time, they will never come to fruition. If you want to become the type of person who speaks up when their best interests are at risk, consider these nine tips.

How To Be More Confident In Your Own Words

Know What You Stand For

In life, we often face situations where we have to choose between speaking up or staying quiet. Making the right decision in such situations can be challenging, especially when unsure of our priorities. However, if we take the time to figure out what matters, we will be better equipped to make the right choice.

Knowing what’s important to us can help us determine when to speak up and when to remain silent. If something truly matters to us, we should be willing to fight for it and speak up about it. On the other hand, if it’s not that significant to us, it may be better to let it go and avoid unnecessary conflict.

We are taking the time to figure out what matters can help us be more confident in our decisions and interactions with others. It’s an excellent way to prioritise our actions and ensure we live in alignment with our values.

Be Ready

It is not uncommon for people to feel nervous or hesitant while speaking up, especially in a professional setting. In such situations, trying to come up with something on the spot may not be the best approach, as it can be pretty intimidating. This is why planning and preparing yourself in advance is essential whenever possible. If you have a meeting or presentation where you want to bring something up, having all your talking points ready is always a good idea. This will help you to stay focused, articulate your thoughts more clearly and confidently, and increase your chances of making a positive impact.

Start Small

Many people struggle with speaking up, whether in a group or one-on-one setting. It can be daunting to voice your thoughts and opinions, especially if you’re not used to doing so. However, speaking up is one of the best ways to overcome this fear. It’s important to start small and work your way up. For example, you could begin by speaking up in a one-on-one conversation with someone you trust. This can help build your confidence and make speaking up in larger groups or more formal settings easier. Remember, practice makes perfect!

Write Down What You Want to Say

For many individuals, writing is a more effective tool for communicating their thoughts than speaking. The process of putting one’s thoughts down on paper allows for a greater level of clarity and organisation. While it may not always be possible to submit a written document during a professional meeting or presentation, having one’s ideas written down allows ample time to practice and refine one’s delivery. Additionally, a written document can be a valuable reference point during discussions and help ensure that all critical points are covered.

Find An Early Opening

Often, we find ourselves in situations where we need to speak up but hesitate to do so. The longer we wait, the more difficult it can become to voice our thoughts or concerns. This is because our mind has ample time to create excuses and reasons we shouldn’t speak up. However, if we can find an early opening to express ourselves, we can ensure enough time to communicate our point. This will also help us to overcome any fears or insecurities we may have about speaking up. So, whenever you find yourself in a situation where you need to voice your opinion, try to do it as soon as possible to make it easier for yourself.

Recognise It’s Hard but Worthwhile

If you’re in a situation where you feel like you need to speak up, it’s understandable if you find it difficult. It can be challenging to voice your opinions, especially if you’re worried about the repercussions or feel your voice won’t be heard. However, it’s essential to recognise that speaking up and expressing yourself is crucial and can bring positive change in your life and those around you.

Research into “Realistic Optimism” has shown that people are more likely to follow through with a task if they expect it to be challenging. Acknowledging that speaking up may be difficult increases your chances of success. So, while it’s understandable if you feel apprehensive about speaking up, realising that the benefits of doing so are worth it in the end is essential.

Your Voice Deserves to Be Heard

Each one of us has a unique perspective on the world. Our life experiences, education, and environment shape our thoughts, beliefs, and values. It’s essential to recognise that our voice, outlook, and understanding of things are valuable and worthy of consideration. If we don’t accept and believe in the importance of our thoughts and opinions, we may struggle to assert ourselves and speak up for ourselves. Cultivating a sense of self-worth and confidence in our ideas and perspectives is crucial to effectively communicate and make meaningful contributions to our communities and the world.

Stop Worrying About Others’ Thoughts

Being mindful of how our words and actions affect others is always a good idea. When we take the time to consider the feelings of those around us, we can avoid unintentionally hurting someone. However, it’s equally important to strike a balance and not let this consideration keep us from expressing ourselves. Sometimes, fear of being judged or disagreeing with others may cause us to hesitate to speak up. But finding the courage to share our thoughts and opinions is crucial if we have something important to say. After all, our unique perspectives have the potential to inspire change and make a difference.

Learn the Art of Diplomacy

There are situations where being straightforward and honest is the best approach. However, there are also instances where a more tactful and diplomatic approach is necessary. It’s essential to balance being assertive and respectful to communicate your needs and opinions effectively. When you can express yourself without being too aggressive, standing up for yourself and making your voice heard becomes easier.


List Times You Didn’t Speak Up And Should Have

Sometimes, we find ourselves in situations with something to say, but we keep quiet. This can happen in personal or professional settings. It could be because we are afraid of confrontation, worried about offending someone, or are unsure what to say. However, when we consistently fail to speak out, it can negatively impact us differently. For example, we may miss opportunities to express ourselves, build relationships, or make a positive impact. By making a list of these times and reflecting on them, we can learn from our experiences and find ways to improve our communication skills in the future.

Consider A Critical Subject And Find A Means To Voice Up

Speaking up about important issues can be challenging, but it is necessary to make a positive change. The first step is to identify the issue you are concerned about and gather information to support your perspective. It’s essential to approach the topic calmly and respectfully, providing facts and examples to support your thoughts. You should also listen to others’ viewpoints and be open to feedback. Finding common ground and proposing solutions can help create a productive conversation and facilitate positive change. Remember to be persistent and advocate for your beliefs – your voice matters!

Don’t Hesitate To Speak Up When You Want To

Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you wanted to speak up about something but held back? Maybe you were at a restaurant, and the server misheard your order, but you didn’t correct them because you didn’t want to be complicated. Or maybe you were in a meeting and had an idea but didn’t share it because you were afraid of being judged. Whatever the situation, it’s important to remember that your voice matters and that speaking up can make a positive difference.

The next time you feel the urge to speak up about something, jump right in and do it. It could be as simple as correcting a server who misheard your order or as complex as voicing your opinion in a heated debate. Whatever the case, don’t be afraid to let your voice be heard. You never know how much of an impact your words could have on others.


In conclusion, confidence in your words is an essential skill that can positively change your life. Whether in a professional or personal setting, expressing yourself clearly and confidently is crucial. By knowing what you stand for, being prepared, starting small, writing down your thoughts, finding an early opening, and recognising that it’s challenging but worthwhile, you can speak up when your best interests are at stake. Remember, your voice deserves to be heard, and with practice, you can become more confident in your own words.

I hope you enjoyed that.

Talk soon.

Working with Strong women, I help empower women not to give up on their goals and find true happiness within themselves. #lifestyle #womenempowerment #selfcare


  • Kat

    Your advice was practical and relatable, and I appreciated the personal touch you added with your anecdotes. I’ll definitely be trying out some of your tips.

  • Rosey

    Our words actually do have a solid impact even when we might not realize it to be true. In my profession it’s a given, but you forget and get cynical based on the minority of those who really don’t care. It’s nice to sit back and remember that hey, for the majority, I am making a quality difference.

  • Richard Lowe

    One of the interesting things about being a ghostwriter is that I interview a lot of people. Some of them get very long winded. So I have to be self-confident enough to interrupt them when needed to keep them on track.

  • heather

    these are great tips for people like me who need to have a pep talk with ourselves about speaking up. writing things down always works wonders.

  • Luna S

    Great post for those who could use a little encouraging boost to feel more comfortable speaking up and communicating with others. Thanks for sharing tis!

  • Bryan Carey

    I would say that the place where people are least likely to speak up, but should, is in the workplace! The risks are often too great and you cannot trust most people with whom you work.

  • Debbie

    These are really valuable tips for growing confidence in speaking up. I like the idea to write out thoughts first. I’ve always found if I write it out I can speak up more confidently.

  • Nyxie

    Love this post! We could all do with being more confident both in ourselves and our own words! It’s a struggle I’ve been facing for the majority of my life but one I’m challenging!

  • Stephanie

    This is excellent information for those of us who are someone timid when it comes to expressing ourselves. These are tips I will keep in mind and practice.

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