How To Create Positive Relationships
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How To Create Positive Relationships

How To Create Positive Relationships. Hello everyone, I hope you are well. In today’s post, I will be sharing a guest post from Anne Jones. Anne Jones is a spiritual healer and author of ‘How to Heal’. She will be sharing a few ways to create positive relationships around you, protect yourself from negative people, and attract a new loving partner.

How To Create Positive Relationships

Our happiness levels are affected by whether our relationships are positive and uplifting or toxic and depressing. At least fifty per cent of my work as a spiritual healer is to help people improve the vibrations of their closest connections: partners, family, in-laws, friends, and work colleagues. I help clients release the yearning for lost love, heal current associations, and be open to finding a new partner.

The closest people to you, who spend the most time with you, are connected to you by energy cords. Your thoughts are energy streams, and constant thoughts create links to those you spend time with. If your relationship is loving, the cord that connects you will be vibrant and intense, with love constantly flowing (apart from the odd tiff!). However, if a friend, family member or colleague is too demanding, needy or overwhelming, they will be stealing your energy, and the cord between you will be heavy and toxic.

Some situations can occur with people you share time with or are constantly in touch with you.


If a relationship is out of balance, the other person clings to you with hooks. They take a ride on your vibrancy and enthusiasm for life. They will drain your energy. You will be exhausted after spending time with them.

Negative Thinking And Depressed

Suppose you spend time with a pessimistic, depressed, or miserable person. In that case, you can be affected by their heavy energy, and their negative thoughts of worry, concern and depression will bring down the vibration of your energy.


Suppose someone close tries to manipulate or control you by bullying or making you feel guilty. You will lose your self-esteem and confidence, believe what they tell you, and become programmed by their sense of superiority or demands.

Angry or Emotional

A person who allows their emotions to boil over quickly will make you feel insecure. When you target someone’s irrational and emotive venting, you will become weaker in yourself, unable to make decisions, vulnerable and low spirited.

What Can You Do?

The connections between you and other people are energy streams created by your thoughts. If you want to change the status of your relationship, you need to start with an intention to transform the energy that flows between you.  Forgiving and opening a positive dialogue can help, and you can shift the energy between you by channelling positive vibrations into the link, the cord that flows between you.

How To Manage The Health And Positivity Of Your Relationships At Home And Work

Here are several ways you can manage the health and positivity of your relationships at home and work.

Clearing The Toxic Energies That Flow Between You And Someone In Your Life

Your thoughts create the cords that connect you to people you know well. The energy vibrations are affected by the emotions attached to those thoughts. So, if you are angry with your sister-in-law, then a stream of heavy energy will reach her and act the way she feels. Your association intertwines your cord to her and you, so anything she feels will flow through you.

Here are simple steps that can help clear the toxic energy that flows between you and someone close and can also release you from their controlling or manipulative attitudes and behaviour:

  1. Write the name of the person involved on a piece of paper
  2. Hold the intention to clear the air between you – to let bygones be bygones and to forgive
  3. If the person controls or dominates you, you intend to set yourself free
  4. Cut a length of thread to represent the cord that connects you
  5. Release the negative energy in the cord by saying: “I send love and forgiveness to clear the cord between [name] and myself. I set myself free, now right now.” And break the cord or cut with scissors
  6. Complete by sending healing into the cord. You can use Reiki or this symbol (below) to invoke light and healing energy streams that flow through your hands. Draw the symbol three times in the air, then place your hands on the person’s name.

How To Create Positive Relationships

Prevent Your Energy From Being Zapped

Protection is the best option when dealing with the negative fall-out of other people’s issues. By protecting and sealing your energy field, you can prevent yourself from being overwhelmed by another person’s negativity. Whenever I work alongside other people, I do what humans have always done when they are attacked – I create a castle! Here you intend to imagine a fortress that is a barrier to heavy and negative energies that can invade and contaminate your energy. It is highly effective!


  1. Visualise a castle, one you create to your taste. Here is an example


2. Visualise it having extremely thick walls and say: “My energy is sealed and protected now. Right now, only positive energy and love can enter.”

Other protective measures include pulling down a garage door when someone starts to vent their anger or frustration at you, ideal if you work with the public. Another is to visualise a giant egg with thick walls that repel negative thoughts – they bounce off the outside layer. Any of these rituals will put you back in control and prevent other people’s emotions from disturbing or stealing your life force and vitality.

If a person depends on you or leans too heavily, they will become a burden, which will tire you. Burdens sit on your shoulders like boulders. Every day imagine sweeping these heavy burdens of dependency from your shoulders.

How To Create Positive Relationships

Attracting A New Relationship

There can be several reasons you struggle to find a loving partner. If you have been badly hurt and abused in a previous relationship, you will need to heal the wounds and imprints in your heart. You will also need to bring down any barriers you have put up yourself. The healing you need will depend on the intensity of the pain of the breakup and is best helped by a therapist. However, to get you started, here are some basics steps you can take that will help you free yourself and clear barriers to a new love:

  1. Clear Redundant Cords

You will need to clear any old cords that may still attach you to past love. If someone leaves you, they will take their cord, but you may still be connected as you yearn for your lost love. Now is the time to cut yourself free – ready for new love. Could you do it now, get out the scissors? Take a thread and cut it. Set yourself free right now.

How To Create Positive Relationships

  1. Vows, Contracts and Promises

You may be tied to someone by a vow or promise – as in a marriage ceremony or even the words you say, “I will be yours forever and ever” – wonderful if you are still together but not so good if that person is long out of your life. Release any redundant vows by saying: “I clear and release myself from all vows and contracts I wish to dissolve, now, right now, right now.”


  1. Open Your Heart

You may have closed your heart deliberately when hurt by rejection. So set your intention to be open to love by placing your hands together in front of your heart centre (in the middle of your chest). These are now the doors to your heart. Open them slowly and deliberately three times and say: “I open my heart to receive love, now, right now, right now.” Now use the healing symbol to receive healing for heartache and grief and after you have traced it in the air, place your hands on your chest.

How To Create Positive RelationshipsYou can find more healing symbols and exercises in my book ‘How to Heal’ and on my website:

I hope you enjoyed that.

Talk Soon



Anne Jones is an international spiritual healer, teacher, and author of seven books translated into 18 languages. Her books include the best seller ‘Healing Negative Energies. Anne gives seminars and personal sessions, clearing emotional blocks, releasing past life imprints, recovering self-worth and improving relationships. She has developed a training course for healers using energy symbols and supporting products, including Oracle Cards and Symbol Jewellery. Anne is also the lyricist of ‘Artaban the Musical’, which debuted in the West End in 2021 and will be launched as a film late this year. Anne is also the founder of the charity Hearts and Hands for Africa. Her latest book is, ‘How to Heal’, is out now. For further information on Anne’s work:




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Working with Strong women, I help empower women not to give up on their goals and find true happiness within themselves. #lifestyle #womenempowerment #selfcare


  • mark berg

    Creating positive relationships hinges on effective communication and mutual respect. Fostering empathy and understanding can transform interactions into meaningful connections.

  • Charina Rasing

    Not everyone enjoys a healthy relationship. I am blessed that my husband and I enjoy a positive outlook on family and relationship, not perfect but we’re making it work. I know couples who might be needing the book and hope it works for them too.

  • Clarice

    I totally agree with you that spending time with a pessimistic or negative person can really be draining. Thank you for sharing these tips and we’d love to check out this book.

  • Patricia Chamberlain

    Positive relationships are so important! Energy zapping relationship can be hard to get out of, but it is always worth evaluating who in your life deserves to be there.

  • Dana

    This is a wonderful article about how to create positive relationships. I like that you say “prevent your energy from being zapped.” I have been reading about co-dependency and setting firm boundaries in our relationships. I learned this the hard way.

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