How to deal with a break-up? Hey guys, in today’s post I thought I share some tips that helped me through a break-up. Break-up is hard and it can really mess you up if you don’t deal with it. I am not an expert on relationships, this is just based on my personal experience and I was hoping to it will help someone going through the same situation.
How To Deal With A Break-Up?
Heal – Take Your Time…Just Not too long
Break-ups are hard to deal with, no matter how long the relationship lasted. You must take your time to deal with it. It can be a long journey or a short journey, that depends on how long you need to heal. We all have different ways of how we deal with the end of a relationship. Some people take months, even years to get over it.
Cry it out, talk to someone, have a night out, a mini holiday, go on a shopping spree. Do anything that makes you feel better on a daily basis. Whatever you do, just know that dealing with break-ups have no limit. Until you can sit beside your ex-partner and feel absolutely nothing as if he/she is a stranger again, that’s when you know you have dealt with it.
Do not take too long though. If it takes you 1 year to heal from a break-up, then it will take 2 years to get into a relationship. Think about it, 1 year of healing, 1 year of rebuilding yourself and then you’re likely to get into a new relationship the within next year. So that is 3 years of a chance of pure happiness gone.
Keep A Distance From Anything And Anyone That Was In Connection To The Relationship
Now, this is something we all do and maybe not realise that it is holding you back. Note that I said, ‘keep a distance’ not ‘end it’. When you are in a relationship, you start building a new life together. While doing so, you go travelling, making plans, making new friends, his friends are now your friends, her friends are now his. If the relationship was serious, you might have met each other’s families too. And then BOOM, the relationship ends, what now?
Keeping a distance between you and all the things that remind you of your previous relationship is a great way to heal and start again. Even though you have developed a new friendship with someone within that relationship, there is a good chance of remembrance of how happy you were in the relationship and then different emotions come flooding in. What happens after that is you will find yourself getting confused and start feeling guilty.
Love Yourself…Do Things That Makes You Happy
Some people would advise you to try to go back to how happy you were before you got into the relationship. Well, that is not a good idea because if you were happier back then, you would not have rushed into a relationship. What I would advise is to try to discover a new way of making you happy. It is hard to get back to the way you were after a break-up, life is short, why you want to go back? Try new actives, something out of your comfort zone, go travelling to places you never been before. Make new friends surround yourself with good people.
Working on yourself is the best cure after a break-up. Whether is the confidence you lack, try to work harder on it. If your job is stressing you out, get a new job or better still start a new career. Whatever you do just remember life is too short. Everything will always come to an end, so therefore everything is temporary.