How To Find Happiness

How To Find Happiness. Hello everyone, I hope you are well. In today’s post, I will be sharing a guest post from Anne Jones. Anne Jones is the author of ‘How to Heal’ and an international spiritual healer. Anne will be sharing how to find happiness in your life by sharing the tools and techniques she gives to her clients to help them when the going gets tough, and our spirits need lifting so we can reconnect with our inner happy state. There will be times in life when you lose touch with your inner joy and feel unmotivated and unfulfilled. This is when you need additional motivation, guidance and support to get back on track.

How To Find Happiness

Sometimes in life, you lose touch with your inner joy, happiness, and feeling-good state when you feel depressed, unmotivated and disappointed when your world becomes grey instead of vibrant and upbeat when a sense of wellbeing is elusive.

You may be coming out of a spell in a hospital recovering from an illness or operation. You may have been through extreme stress, which can deplete your adrenals, or you are struggling with grief from a breakup or losing a loved one. Or you may have hit a beige period of your life when you feel drained and just getting through the day is heavy, yet you cannot put your finger on why you think that way.

That’s the time when you need additional motivation, guidance and support to get back on track. In this article, I will share some tools and ideas that I give to my clients – techniques I have used when the going gets tough to lift my spirits and reconnect to my inner happy state.

Your Happiness Buttons

We could spend all day discussing what happiness is. It is a feeling that is different for everyone, and how you find it will vary too. So, let’s define happiness as feeling good about yourself and your life, allowing you to smile and laugh easily and having predominantly positive thoughts.

Before changing your life, you need to have a goal and the intention of achieving it and then an action plan on how you will get there. Start by journaling about your purpose of finding happiness, joy and fulfilment. Then it would help if you decided what is it that makes you happy. This may sound easy, but it’s surprising how hard it can be, especially if you take out materialism – the joy that a new car brings can be a fleeting emotion and will not be sustained if deep inside you are still miserable with yourself your situation.

Let me give you some examples of what I mean. I am happy when writing, painting or gardening – in fact, any creative activity. I feel great when walking with my dogs – that always lifts my spirits. I am also happy when spending time with friends. My friend Brenda is delighted when she travels, whether planning a new holiday or taking one. She and I are both happy when we are busy doing something worthwhile, particularly helping others. My husband is happy when immersed in a balance sheet and a set of accounts, and my stepdaughter is happy when she is helping animals.

Action:

• What are your Happiness Buttons? Write them down – it can be a long list.

You may take some time to remember all those happy days and what was happening, but it’s a good exercise, and you’ll almost certainly find some surprises.

• What makes you unhappy, miserable or grumpy?

List all the things you do in your life that make you unhappy. This will help you make choices for the way ahead.

• Make a plan

Once you know yourself well enough, the next step is to write a plan on how you will change your life to include those activities on the positive list and avoid or change as many on the negative list as is practical.

Your Driver

Most of us have a driver that motivates us. This is often reflected in your choice of job and the role you have chosen to play in life. It could be to be a mother and care for children or to nurse, teach, make money, develop businesses, work with figures, explore, heal, mend things, and so on.

Your driver is a strong force in your life, and when you are not allowing it to lead you, you will almost certainly feel demotivated, unfulfilled or just plain miserable. One of the problems we face when we retire or take time out to have a family is that our driver may be harder to satisfy.

Several of my friends have husbands who have found it very hard to find happiness in retirement as their happiness came from the jobs they were doing before retirement, and they haven’t been able to enjoy their new direction. Mostly, they eventually find another driver, another route through, but adjusting can be tricky. If this is you, it’s essential to accept that you can no longer hold your previous role and meditate on other possibilities. Try new activities, take on a challenge, think outside the box and experiment. You don’t have to save the world from feeling fulfilment, but you certainly need to get off the sofa.

Action:

• What is your driver – or do you have more than one?
• What will you try if you cannot continue to follow your old route and roles?

Letting Go and Changing Direction

If you are still hankering over your previous role, you must cut your attachment to it. This could be a yearning for a work-related position you can no longer fulfil or being a mother or father with an empty nest. You can make yourself very unhappy by yearning for something you no longer have or cannot achieve because of age, health or opportunity. So now is the time to let go of that attachment and move on to new ventures.

Action:

Cutting cords to attachments

This simple process involves attachments to people, roles, situations or unavailable circumstances.

1. Write your intention to let go, to move forward.
2. What is it you wish to detach from?
3. How will this benefit you?
4. Cut a thread to represent your attachment. Now cut through the thread and know you are setting yourself free, releasing chains.
5. What new direction are you planning to take?
6. What changes can you make in your life that will satisfy you?

Contentment

Do you feel guilty if you are not busy all day long? Can you sit and enjoy the birds, watch TV, and watch people? There is nothing wrong with being content with a simple life. It’s not necessary to change the world – fine if activism is your driver, but otherwise, being happy and content is a great state to be in.

Action:

• Allow yourself to be happy with the simple things.
• Make a conscious effort to allow yourself to relax and kick back.

Your Happiness Or Other People’s?

You may be someone who spends more time thinking about how to make the people around you happy than considering what you may like yourself. Caring for others is highly commendable and can bring happiness, but if your life is too far out of balance in the giving and receiving, you will eventually feel resentful. Set the intention to bring balance into your life, making time for yourself and others.

Duty is a difficult word. It should not be the dominant motivator for what you do, especially if you are not happy doing it. When you give yourself, your time or your attention, it is much lighter if it comes from the heart, for it will come with the perfect energy vibration. If it comes from a sense of self-sacrifice, if it is attached to the words or thoughts of ‘should do’ or ‘ought to’, it will come with heavy energy.

Action:

• What do you do because you feel you ought to?

Write down all those things you do that you do because it’s expected of you. Maybe you hate cooking but are obliged to do it for your family. Perhaps you agree to visit your in-laws every weekend, but you are saying yes when you mean no.

 How many of these activities could you change around? Could you change how you do them, so they come from your heart? Could you change your life’s balance so that there is more’ love to do it’ activities in your day? Could you get someone else to help out?

• Happy goal for today

Plan your day and write down what you will do for yourself. What treat will you give yourself, and what activity will you fit in? What music will you play? Will you go for a walk in nature, swim or take a yoga class? Will you be frivolous and indulge yourself?

Are You Your Own Worst Enemy?

Do you make yourself unhappy by being overly critical, judgemental or perfectionist? If so, acknowledge what you do, listen to your inner dialogue, and see how you are treating yourself.

Action:

Be kind to yourself, encourage yourself

• What can you change about how you see yourself, speak to yourself or encourage yourself? What new dialogue can you use to lift yourself rather than put yourself down?

I hope you enjoyed that.

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ABOUT ANNE JONES

Anne Jones is the author of ‘How to Heal’ and an international spiritual healer, teacher, and author of seven books translated into 18 languages. Her books include the best seller ‘Healing Negative Energies.’ Anne gives seminars and personal sessions, clearing emotional blocks, releasing past life imprints, recovering self-worth and improving relationships. She has developed a training course for healers using energy symbols and supporting products, including Oracle Cards and Symbol Jewellery. Her latest book, ‘How to Heal’, is out now. For further information on Anne’s work: www.annejones.org

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