How To Get The Things You Want And Need. Hello everyone, I hope you are well. In today’s post, I will be sharing a few persuasive strategies on how to get what you want and need. Life is made up of wants and needs. Whether we get our hands on those wants and needs depends on how good we are at convincing others to give them to us. But no one gives out anything without a convincing reason. That’s where your powers of friendly persuasion come in.
People generally gravitate towards friendly people. So, if you learn how to come across as pleasant and trustworthy, you’ll be able to win over even the most difficult people. Yet, remember that persuasion is a skill that needs to be honed and perfected. To help you get started, I have rounded up five persuasive strategies you can use to get the things you want and need.
How To Get The Things You Want And Need
When you talk with poise, you convey that you’re convinced of your idea and know you will get your way. This subconsciously influences the other party to give you what you want.
According to a study by the University of Leicester, ‘the single significant behavioural difference between persuaders and persuadees was in the expression of confidence.’
In other words, your ability to persuade people starts with your assertiveness. In other words, the more confidence you exude, your appeal will be more powerful.
The great thing about confidence is that it’s accessible to fake. If you act confident, the person in front of you won’t be able to tell whether it’s real or made up. So, please take a deep breath, stick out your chin, and show them what you’ve got!
Just make sure you don’t oversell it. You might come across as arrogant and cocky, which is a big turnoff for most people.
Start with a Logical Argument
Generally, people are persuaded by logic. Once they’re convinced that something is the right thing for them to do, then they’ll do it without question.
Say you’re trying to convince a co-worker to help you with a pile of work. Their first reaction will be to resist and probably claim they have endless files to deal with.
Nevertheless, if you use logical reasoning, you may be able to convince them that they’re the best person to help you.
You can also tell them that by working together, you will finish faster, earning both of you points with the boss and helping the company get projects done quicker.
Choose Your Words
It’s no secret that some words have more positive connotations than others. You want to use those to win over your argument because they are more valuable than others.
They can go a long way in helping you persuade people to see your point of view and help you get what you want.
For example, ‘reasonable’ sounds much better than ‘okay,’ and a ‘lucrative’ deal sounds much more exciting than simply a ‘good’ deal.
We’re not suggesting you memorize bulky words and stuff them in your conversation. We’re merely saying that you should try to arrange your sentences for the best possible outcome.
For starters, you’ll come across as a skilled communicator. Not only that, but you’ll also sound more intelligent, coherent, and attentive—all of which make you more trustworthy and, ultimately, more persuasive.
That’s the power of rhetoric.
Highlight How the Other Person Can Benefit
Not only do people gravitate towards friendly people who make logical arguments, but they also need to benefit from whatever they’re doing.
Here’s another example:
Imagine that you’re trying to convince your friends to help you move. Of course, their first reaction would be to run for the hills. No one likes all the hassle and headache of moving.
But, if you tell them that you’ll have fun sorting through all your old stuff and will probably give some of your old things away, they may reconsider. You can also tell them you’re getting pizza and drinks afterwards, and they’ll all be in!
Use Subtle Flattery
You must be savvy when using this tactic because it can be tricky to master. Not enough flattery, and the other party won’t have time to take it in.
On the other hand, too much flattery will come across as too blunt or pushy. Then, the other person will quickly catch on, and they’ll feel like you’re bribing them with ill-appropriate remarks. Of course, this means you won’t get what you want.
Instead, give them sincere, well-thought-out compliments that boost their self-confidence and make them feel good about themselves. As a result, they’ll be more willing to listen to you and give you what you want.
I hope you enjoyed that.
Angela Ricardo Bethea
Those are some great points to keep in mind and we need to speak up more on issues but do it in a way to avoid it going negatively or start a fight.
I totally agree especially with the flattery. Some people have a tendency to overdo things and it doesn’t always work in their favour. Self confidence is something that we learn in time. We start by faking it and in time we no longer need to.
Eileen M Loya
Confidence is the key. I try my best to communicate my needs and wants, but of course, choosing the right words works like magic. I like your tip of highlighting that my needs and wants would benefit also the other party.
Yyyeeesssss…being confident and speaking boldly is my practice these days. I always pass on my wants and needs.
I remember in creative writing class in high school we once had to come up with a presentation to show our parents about something that we wanted. It was a great exercise in being persuasive! My presentation was about all the places that I wanted to visit during our first trip to California. It helped a great deal in creating my confidence! Thanks so much for sharing all of these fabulous tips about how to get the tings you want and need! Well done.
Confidence in oneself goes so far! My dad taught me that at a young age, always lead with confidence.
I love and enjoy reading this article. Confidence definitely has a big part in attaining all of these and I think that is the one that I need to work out.
This is a great post. We all want what we need and want but many dont realize that we truly can manifest anything if we are authentic, positive and on the same frequency of what we are desiring.
I think i have a problem with confidence. I hope soon I`ll find the right solution for me. “Highlight How the Other Person Can Benefit” is really interesting thought. I’ll remember your tips!
I need to practice on my self-confidence. Sometimes I waver in being convicted of what I feel and believed in and other times I am not so sure. Therefore, it’s hard to convey exactly what I mean without sounding like I am babbling too much. And in my opinion, this goes hand in hand with how we say things. Because you never want to be demanding nor come across as a salesperson.
Maureen | http://www.littlemisscasual.com
These are some important points to remember. I love that you started with having confidence.
Thank you for sharing such a helpful and insightful article! I really appreciate the practical tips on how to manifest the things we want and need in life. The personal anecdotes and emotional tone made it a pleasure to read. Keep up the great work!