My Pregnancy Journey As A Single Mum. Hello everyone, I hope you are well. In today’s post, I will be sharing my pregnancy journey as a single mum with my daughter Sasha-Ann. My pregnancy was not planned and not expected at all. I was in a relationship, but the relationship ended when I was 12 weeks pregnant. I was emotionally drained after the break-up because I thought we could make it work. The idea of bringing up a child all alone was never something I planned for my future. However, I decided to keep the pregnancy with support from my family.
My Pregnancy Journey As A Single Mum
No Morning Sickness
There was no morning sickness. Sometimes I would take another pregnancy test to check because my stress level was high, and I got worried that I might have miscarried. I was crying most of the time and couldn’t sleep or eat. I was in a shallow and dark place. When I was working before my maternity leave, my colleagues and customers noticed that I was not my usual, cheerful self; the manager tried to talk to me and reassured me that everything would be okay.
Worried
I was 23 years old, and my life was about to change. I had heard stories of what single mothers go through, especially the younger ones. Everyone looks down on you ( even I looked down on them, too); having no money or support, some are homeless and become addicts and have their kids taken away.
Loneliness
Although I had support from my family, I was still very lonely—no one to talk to (not really). My mum tried to help build my confidence, but it wasn’t enough. I was not a happy person at all. You can have your family and friends to support you and entertain you to get your mind off things, but if you’re not happy inside you, you can not feel the love you have around you.
Getting Help
I was hesitant about getting a social worker because I thought they would judge my disabilities and take my daughter away from me. How wrong was I? I don’t know about other,s but the Social worker I had was an Angel. She listened, she understood, she explained, and she made everything seems so easy. I was fortunate to have her. She believed in me, saw my strength, and told me I could still achieve my dreams. This was just the start. I said I did not want to be a stay-at-home mother. I tried to get an excellent job to provide for my daughter and myself.
Negative Thoughts
Yes, I had lots of negative thoughts, but as my bump grew, things became more transparent and more accessible as I began to fall in love with my baby. Especially she kicked, and I felt her move. That feeling is Amazing! It was a sign that she knew what was going on in my mind, but she was telling me, ‘Don’t worry, mummy, everything will be just fine.
Advice
‘Do not listen to what other people say about pregnancy, not your mum, favourite aunt or best friend. Take some advice, but the rest must be your decision.’
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