Ten Things You Should Never Expect From Others. Hello everyone, I hope you are well. In today’s post, I will be sharing ten things you should never expect from others. By others, I mean everyone. It doesn’t matter how close you are to them. Over the years, I have learned much from my experience with different people. As an adult, I believe this is something we need to talk about with our younger generations, and life will be so much more comfortable with this mindset.
Ten Things You Should Never Expect From Others
Apologies
One of the hardest things to do is to forgive someone who is not sorry. But the forgiveness is for you, not for them. When somebody hurts you, they take power over you. If you don’t forgive them, they keep the power. The person has moved on with their life, and you’re still hurting. Why?
Closure
Everyone wants closures after a breakup. Whether in their relationships, marriages or friendships, you may not get the closure you are looking for. We all have an individual mindset, and we usually only give others what they want and not what they need. Sometimes you got to provide yourself with closures to move on. Some people will never give it to you.
Explanation
I can’t say this clearly enough – No one owes you an explanation for anything they’ve done. No matter what. Just the same way. Stop arguing with someone you are just because they are not explaining because you think you deserve it unless you are the boss!
Happiness
No one can make you happy. It comes from within you. Stop expecting people to make you happy or to stay comfortable. The most optimistic person in the world is the person who seeks nothing from anyone. Why would you
Honesty
We expect people to be honest with us at all times, right? Things most people are not even honest with themselves. So do not wish them to be honest with you. Only a few will.
Love
As painful as it is – no one is obligated to love you even if you’ve loved them first. Love is a choice. Not a must! Do not expect someone to love you just because you love them generally. They may never love you the way you love or the way you want to love.
Reciprocity
Indeed, no one is you, so don’t expect them to do what you do for them. It doesn’t matter if it’s family or relationships. It doesn’t matter how long they have been in your life; they share the same clothes, dreams, or interests with you. People have a unique mindsets.
Respect
Many people have no self-respect. So they will not give respect. You can provide people with all the respect in the world. But the truth is you can not offer what you don’t have.
Understanding
Have you ever had to explain a situation that wasn’t your fault and hoped that the other person would understand? Then the next week, the same issue came up again. And you find yourself explaining over again? The truth is no one would ever understand you fully. Some people would never get you or even try. As long as you know yourself, they don’t know your past or what is in your mind.
Validation
Seek no approval for what you do or what you are from anyone. You are lovely without anyone’s validation. I am guilty of this, and I am sure I am not the only one. However, I realised that it was not enough for their satisfaction no matter what I did.
As harsh as these points are, it is indeed the reality of the people in the world. As a young adult, I learned these points the hard way.
I hope you enjoyed that.
Talk soon.
25 Comments
Gunel
It’s true. I know from personal experience. When you stop expecting, you’ll be happy!
aisasami
Some hard truths in this post. The one thing is the honesty, I wasn’t expecting something like that.
Marjie Mare
I agree with all of them except for the love part. As a mother, I cannot see how a child should not expect love from their mothers and vice versa.
Heather Behrends
This is all SO TRUE! I think it’s easy to expect some of these things from others, but the truth is that anytime we start expecting ANYTHING from other people we are setting ourselves up for disappointment or resentment.
Marysa
All so true. And you can’t expect people to change, either. These are all spot on!
Heidi
This is such a great reminder. Great article!
vidya
so very true; while i have always not expected some of these things (maybe a trait i learned from my dad), others i learned over the years; and i am working on the last couple of things (validation for one)
Maureen
Yes, been there and done that! I think we all innately want to please others but the problem is we forget who we are in return. I used to say yes all the time now more often than not I am not afraid to say no. The years and life experience has helped be more confident in my own skin and I can say, it’s like day and night.
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Bella
this is so true!!! closer can be so hard. but putting your self first is so important thought!
Cyndi Buchanan
Great advice! It’s much more important to expect these things from ourselves.
Kimmy
Loved this message. Closure is a hard one for me to swallow on not expecting
Krysten Quiles
Closure is a hard one for me and something I have to work on.
Amy Liu Dong
Everything is so true. I am always willing to help, say yes, and understand others that’s me in nature because I am expecting that they will also do that in return. But now, I realize that they will not appreciate you no matter how big or small favors you do for them. Now I learn to value myself more while still others.
Soniasblog
I can relate
Charina
One thing I learned from my husband is to have low expectations from people. Do what you need to do without expecting anything in return.
Soniasblog
Yes, that’s right. That’s the only way to have peace of mind.
Danielle
Such great points and advice.
Sondra
Love this overall message about self-love and happiness.
Soniasblog
Yes, that’s right. Putting yourself first at all times is not selfish.
Clare
These are all things you understand becoming an adult and it helps you have more confidence but also respect other people’s individuality.
Soniasblog
I agree. I feel some adults forget these point though x
Hol
I absolutely love it so very true, shame but so important to realise x
Soniasblog
Thank you x
Sarah Stockley
All so true. I have gone through my life saying yes to everybody and always being helpful and offering my time. I have come to realise that everyone is so different and they won’t always reciprocate.
Soniasblog
Thanks for reading. x