Ten Tips To Overcome Your Imposter Syndrome. Hello everyone, I hope you are well. In today’s post, I will be sharing a guest post from Ian Child, former corporate leader, co-founder of the training company propertyCEO and the author of ‘Your Own Personal Time Machine. Ian will share offering ten tips to help you conquer Imposter Syndrome. Around 70% of the population is estimated to suffer from Imposter Syndrome. Albert Einstein, Serena Williams, Tom Hanks, and Lady Gaga are all famous sufferers. So, what is it, and what can you do to combat it?
Ten Tips To Overcome Your Imposter Syndrome
What is Imposter Syndrome?
It’s a term you may have encountered before, but do you know what it is? And do you suffer from it? Well, on this latter question, if you don’t, you’re in the minority. It’s estimated that around 70% of the population is afflicted, with some groups being more prone than others, such as entrepreneurs, high achievers, and people different from most of their peers. Albert Einstein, Serena Williams, Tom Hanks, and Lady Gaga are famous sufferers. So, what exactly is Imposter Syndrome, why do we get it, and, more importantly, what can we do about it if we have it?
Imposter Syndrome isn’t a medical condition. It is simply a persistent inability to believe that your success is deserved or has been legitimately achieved due to your efforts or skills. It leads to self-doubt, negative feelings, and not taking opportunities when they come along, plus it can also be linked to anxiety and depression.
Sufferers feel like one day someone is going to tap them on the shoulder and tell them they’ve been rumbled, that everyone has realised they’re a bit of a fraud, and they don’t have the skills to be able to do the job that they’re doing, even though they may have had some success doing it. They feel that any success that they have had has been purely accidental. Examples include worrying that your boss thinks you’re not up to the job or that you’re only pretending to be someone who can raise a baby, buy a house, or start a business.
Imposter Syndrome sufferers can experience increased anxiety and stress, a lack of confidence, and a fear of taking opportunities or moving outside their comfort zones. It can also motivate sufferers to be perfectionists or to work long hours to offset their guilt about being a fraud. After all, while their boss may discover they’re a charlatan, they at least tried to do things perfectly or put the hours in.
Symptoms of Imposter Syndrome
Here are a few of the more common ones:
- Crediting luck for any success you may have
- Fear of being seen as a failure
- Feeling that overworking is the only way to meet expectations
- Feeling unworthy of attention or affection
- Not asking questions in meetings or lectures (or in the classroom)
- Downplaying your accomplishments
- Holding back from reaching goals you should be able to reach
- Thinking that your peers are more capable than you are
The next point to reassure you is that Imposter Syndrome only exists in your head. No one is about to tap you on the shoulder, and the irony is that genuine imposters don’t suffer from Imposter Syndrome. We suffer from it because we fear failure, usually when operating outside our comfort zone or in a competitive arena. We’re also acutely aware of our doubts and shortcomings, yet when we look around us, we only see the success and confidence of others, which makes us feel like an outlier.
Social media is an excellent example – everyone presents an airbrushed view of themselves to the world, and the only warts-and-all view of somebody we ever get is of ourselves. We know all too well that underneath our carefully polished social media accounts lies someone who has had their fair share of failures and screw-ups. Not to mention all those terrible photos of you that you could NEVER post because they’re so awful. In other words, we perceive everyone else as being ‘perfect’ but know we are not. We’re the fraudulent card in the pack.
Ten Tips To Overcome Your Imposter Syndrome
So, what can you do to stop yourself from suffering from Imposter Syndrome? Unfortunately, there’s no magic pill you can take to make it disappear, but you can do quite a few things to make life much easier for yourself. Here are my top ten Imposter Syndrome coping strategies:
Realise You’re Not The Only Sufferer
For some reason, we fail to acknowledge that other people feel the same. Using the earlier social media example, we must appreciate that everyone else has the same screw-ups and failures they don’t publicise and that their cutting room floor is littered with crap photos they wouldn’t post in a million years.
Make A Note Of Your Accomplishments
Create a list that you can refer to when you have moments of doubt, one that reminds you of how great you are and that other people think you’re great too. This may seem simplistic, but many sufferers swear by it as it helps reframe their minds and evaporate those less helpful thoughts.
Don’t Compare Yourself To Others
We usually totally overestimate how skilful or successful other people are. The reality is that everyone else feels just as insecure as you do. There’s a great quote by the ladies’ fashion designer Diane von Furstenberg, who said: You always look at the woman across the room. And you think, “The woman across the room is so confident, so poised and so put together, and so on.” But that woman is looking at YOU. And for her, YOU are the woman across the room. Everybody’s the same. It’s just a big waste of time to be insecure.”
Talk To Others
This can give you more confidence and help you see that your thoughts are irrational – particularly when you talk to someone you believe has a reasonable opinion of you. Don’t be afraid to share your feelings about Imposter Syndrome with others – you may find they’re experiencing the same issues as you.
Don’t Get Stuck In A Cycle Of ‘I Can’t Do This
Those fraudulent feelings can all too easily prevent you from taking action, and as a result, you won’t apply for that job or make your voice heard at a meeting. Success in anything only exists outside your comfort zone, so you need to take action – feel the fear and do it anyway, even if your head is full of self-doubt. As your comfort zone expands, have confidence in the fact that your levels of anxiety will reduce automatically.
Celebrate Your Successes
We’re generally not very good at celebrating our successes, and it’s a real missed opportunity. Celebrating success helps dispel thoughts that we’re undeserving and gives us confidence in our abilities. Also, make a point of celebrating both large and small wins. Imposter Syndrome sufferers tend to move on too quickly and treat wins with relief rather than celebrating them.
Stop Being A Perfectionist
If 100% is perfection, you must stop thinking that only doing a job to 99% is a failure. Appreciate that other person may only be capable of doing the same job as 70%, so achieving 80% will be good enough, and 90% will be better than most. It’s not about lowering the bar – it’s simply reframing how well you’ve done and what you’ve achieved. Also, most jobs don’t need to be done 100%. Perfectionists can spend the same time again getting a job from 80% to 100%, whereas they could have used that time to do a second task to 80% and get much more done.
Share Your Failures
We often see other people’s successes but not their flops, whereas we always see our failures. This gives us a poor perspective and makes us think of ourselves as being less capable in comparison. Opening up with others can help demonstrate that you’re no different and everyone has the same issues. It can take a leap of faith (after all, we’re not naturally predisposed to want to share our shortcomings), but the fruits can be well worth the labour. Ironically, it can often be more accessible to open up to strangers than to those who know you well.
Reframe Failure As A Positive
Samuel Beckett once said, ‘Ever tried, ever failed. No matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail better, and to be fair to him, he pretty much nailed it. Failure is not a sign of being rubbish; it’s a sign that you’re trying to achieve something, and you need to give yourself credit for this. It’s difficult to succeed the first time – ask any billionaire or successful inventor. But one thing is sure: if you never try, you’ll never fail and never become successful.
Reframe Your Position
Fear can often be the prevailing emotion regarding Imposter Syndrome, but you must put it back in its box and look at the situation differently. Let’s look at the facts: you’re an intelligent high achiever with an opportunity to be successful at whatever is put in front of you. So, instead of thinking, ‘Just wait until they find out I don’t know what I’m doing’, what about changing this to, ‘I may not know all the answers, but I’m smart enough to figure them out’? It’s a far more empowering way of looking at your situation.
Too often, Imposter Syndrome holds people back from achieving their full potential, but recognising it for what it is, is a huge step towards fixing it. And if you’re reading this article thinking that some of those Imposter Syndrome symptoms resonated, welcome to the club.
I hope you enjoyed that.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Ian Child is a former corporate leader, co-founder of the training company propertyCEO (propertyceo.co.uk) and the author of ‘Your Own Personal Time Machine’, a guide to getting your life back, available exclusively from amazon.co.uk. in paperback and e-book.
As someone who experiences imposter syndrome A LOT I really loved these tips!
Yyyeeesssss! I love the idea of re-framing your position. In the long run, we get to program our mind into looking at approaching success and failure differently. I love that!
What great tips for overcoming imposter syndrome. I wonder if everyone feels like this? I appreciate your advice!
Jennifer L Prince
This is something I really struggle with! But looking at what I’ve done and also knowing that others have struggled with this is comforting.
OMG I cant believe there is an actual term for this. I tell my husband every time I land a new campaign or work with a company I never thought would reach out to me that I cant believe they picked me or why me. Always feel like they must have made a mistake. Thanks for this.
Your article on overcoming imposter syndrome is insightful and practical. I appreciate the personal anecdotes and actionable tips that can help readers boost their confidence and achieve their goals. Keep up the great work!
Angela Ricardo Bethea
Those are some wonderful tips to keep in mind and thanks for this informative guide.
These are effective tools that can help lessen imposter syndromes impact on our mental health, work performance, and quality of life.
I wouldnt know what to do. Fortunately, there are these practical steps people like me can take to overcome imposter syndrome and fully appreciate our worth.
Ohhh i could definitely use these tips. I’ve been having my business for over 6 years and my clients come back every year and still I struggle with this. Thanks for sharing
Reading through this article on imposter syndrome hits quite close to home! I will be sure to share this with a few people I know who deserve to understand this.
I am intrigued. I have heard of Imposter Syndrome but was not completely aware of what it really was. I find it interesting that famous and successful people like Elton John and Laga Gaga suffer from this syndrome as well. Thanks for sharing this.
Imposter syndrome is a very real thing for me! I’ve struggled with it over the years. Thank you for these ten tips on ways to overcome imposter syndrome.