Lifestyle,  Single Mum's Life

The Perfect Body

In today’s society, both men and women, even children are being pressured to get ‘The Perfect Body’. This has been going on for a long time and it happens every single day. It has also caused mental illness and suicide. Whether you are a multi-millionaire or a cleaner. The sad part about body shaming is that people who body shame other people are the ones who are not happy in their own skin. What’s worst – the victims believe them.

Body Shaming

Body shaming falls under the term ‘Abuse’. Yes, that’s right- ABUSE! Calling someone ‘fat’, ‘skinny’, ‘disgusting’ etc is an act of Abuse. We are all humans, we all have insecurities. So why should we body shame each other? Mothers with baby weight are being forced to hit the gym immediately after giving birth, men are in competition against the title of ‘Most Handsome Man of the year’ and kids? Kids are just living life by what they see from adults on Social Media.

There’s A Difference Between Giving Advice and Body Shaming

It’s one to advise someone to lose weight due to health issues or just giving a piece of friendly advice when it’s genuine. When someone is super proud of their body or have built up a sign of courage to show off their curve, stretch marks, etc and then constantly being told to take the picture down due to negative comments regarding how they look, that’s when the body shaming occurs.

Stop Body Shaming

The only way to stop body shaming is to be proud of your body. Haters will stop hating when they realise they can not victimise you. I am proud of my body, my stretch marks, my c-section leftovers, my disability, my curve, most especially my smile. All the scars that are printed on my body, I am proud of them all. It shows where I have been, how I far I have come and where I am going. I have the perfect body that anyone can ever have. There’s nothing missing in my body, there’s nothing to change.

Mirror Mirror On The Wall

Think about it. Nobody wakes up in the morning and look in the mirror and say to themselves, ‘Oh My God, I’m fat.’ You wouldn’t think are fat unless you are told, you wouldn’t think your stretch marks make you look weird unless you are told. You certainly would not think you are ugly unless you are told you are ugly. That is what body shaming does to mental health.

Only I Decide

Unless you are the all mighty creator (God), keep your opinion to yourself. It’s my body, you have nothing on me. I am uniquely designed. Only I decide if there are changes that need to be done, only I decide if I’m fat or skinny, only I decide to I eat and don’t eat, and only I decide what I want to do with my body. It’s my choice. My happiness starts with me and no one else. As long as I am healthy and happy, I have the perfect body.

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